You've starred with some of the hottest women in Hollywood including Katherine Heigl in 27 dresses, and Jessica Biel and Cameron Diaz in two of your upcoming films. What do you think makes a woman sexy?
How do I answer this without giving a pure 'roach', by the book answer? I think if you don't see the work that goes into making her look good, that's sexy.
Sometimes you see women checking themselves out in the mirror and not allowing themselves to be comfortable in their own skin and worrying too much about what they're wearing and what they look like. If they look like they're not tuned into that and just they're having fun and comfortable in their own skin then that, and a good, intelligent sense of humour is sexy.
Right...
Confidence, I think is a big thing, you know? I don't know. I think that's it. I will go with sense of humour and confidence how about that? p>
Uh huh...
A good healthy sense of humour.
Ok. That didn't sound scripted at all, well done.
Ha! But that's really it. For me it's not, um... I get turned off when women know how attractive they are. And sort of flaunt it and you know, like, I don't want to say any big names but you see all these big super stars everywhere and they have fragrances and music videos everywhere. And they are acting sexy in their music videos as if they know how sexy they are its too much for me. I'd rather see a girl making fun of herself.
In '27 Dresses' you get up on the bar and you absolutely butcher 'Benny and the Jets' is there a song that you are forever botching up?
Er, there is one song...What's the one? 'Every time you go away, you take a piece of MEAT with you'...
You're an accomplished singer aren't you?
Ah, well I wouldn't say I'm accomplished. But I would say I'm a pretty good mimic. I'm good at faking it!
Go on, sing us a song...
Sing you a song now? No, we're being recorded. I can't imagine you are sitting there with a pad and pen, are you?
Fair enough, then. What is the most romantic thing that you have ever done for a girl?
Maybe, propose to my wife. You know, there's text book romantic and then there's what I see as romance. There's being a married man with two kids and being romantic and then there's what my wife sees as being romantic...
How are they different?
Well, when I was first courting my wife, we were staying at a hotel, that wouldn't really be courting would it? Anyway, I had a guitar and we would go down to the beach and I would get the guitar out and, you know, that's very sweet but now, with kids, romance takes a whole different form. It's the little things like when my wife gets in her car and she realises that I've filled her car up with gas. Or when she can sleep in for a couple of extra hours while I deal with crying babies. That's romantic. Its about being thoughtful about the other person.
Any woman who has kids will tell you that it's a man doing the dishes or changing a nappy and being a good father and husband, that's romantic. Rather than getting flowers or buying chocolates and all that stuff. Because honestly, to me, there is little romance in popping down a credit card. That's easy to do. It's harder to think about what would make her happy right now. Men should think about what women want. Like let her go and have a long bath while they take care of everything. Let her have time to relax, give her a massage or give her time to go hang out with her friends while he stays at home to baby sit.
Your character in 27 Dresses is fairly cynical about marriage. Have you always believed in it?
I'd be lying if I told you that I wasn't a bit cautious about getting into the matrimonial, Er, commitment. My parents were divorced so I was always had a very practical, not very romantic, way of looking at tying the knot. I believed in commitment regardless of what was on paper. I was always believed that whether you want to be with that person or not, you don't need a piece of paper. That way of thinking went away when I realised that I might lose the person that I was in love with. I don't want to paint the picture that my wife was dead set that I had to marry her, but she did make me see that being in a relationship is different when your married versus when you're not married. p>
How did she do that?
She comes from a family where her parents had the most brilliant marriage, and I think that she wanted the same thing for herself, with good reason, because they were madly in love and in a healthy relationship. I, on the other hand, did not come from that. But I still managed to have really great relationships with my mother and father.
I must say that when we did finally get married, there is something different about the relationship. There is something important about going forward and saying 'I do want to be with this person the rest of my life.' Sometimes you're going to have to work at it and at times, you're not going to have to work at it at all. It is for a life time and it is hard to commit to anything for a life time. But when you do, it reveals how much you feel about this person, not only to her but to yourself and I'm very happy that I did it.
We were friends for about a year and a half before we ever started dating and that's what I would suggest to make a relationship work. If you can manage to somehow be friends before you do the dating thing because, to be honest with you, no-one is being themselves. When you're just friends, you're yourself, and you're very open about your strengths and weaknesses. You're just all out there because it's a friendship. And I think that's healthy. Because then they're with you for who you are. And you can decide if you want to be in a relationship or not.
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