Relight my fire

Elizabeth says...

You need to be explicit in the message you deliver to your boyfriend - he clearly isn't receiving your broadcast, or if he IS he doesn't want to let on. What do you know? Perhaps he too is eager to pep things up in the bedroom, just that something in him - shyness or lethargy - stop him from taking action. Or perhaps he believes these things should sort themselves out, without any conscious intervention. Or maybe he's perfectly happy with your current routine it and even takes comfort from the predictability of your sexual enterprise. Or maybe he doesn't fancy you any more. Or perhaps he hates the way he looks from behind so it doesn't suit him for you to dribble honey down his back. Okay, I just threw that last one in for effect, but I'm sure you can see where I'm heading...it's not worth you making assumptions about your boyfriend's standpoint, nor is it fair to write the relationship off, until you've given him the space to express his views.
So get him ON that platform and don't let him off again until he's given you the intelligence you're after. Let all decisions you make about the future of your relationship follow from there. Good luck.

Katie, 19 from Lancaster asks...

I want to liven things up in the bedroom but whenever I bring up a suggestion, my boyfriend just looks bemused, like I'm being stupid. I don't think he realises how bored I am by our usual routine and how I miss the excitement and spontaneity we had when we started going out. I've suggested everything from trying new positions to a dirty weekend away but nothing seems to stick and it's causing me to doubt our relationship. What can I do?

Relight my fire